Hold on honey, do you even know what you want anymore?
I don’t what you’re dealing with, going through or how you are personally feeling, but I do know that I fall into those slumps and they can be deep. You know the ones? The ones where all motivation seems to be gone. Maybe you want to lose a few pounds and the scale just wont budge! You might be struggling with a promotion, your self image or even just your own self talk and the feeling of lack of accomplishment. These things can really weigh you down. You start asking yourself, “what has happened to me?” Or “boy have I lost my way! I have never been this far off track.”
I’m here to motivate you! Lets put that spring back in your step and get going on the issue here:
My worst slump was after dropping out of college. I fell into the idea that it was a waste of time, money and realized that I was losing the best parts of myself. I then decided working was worse because now I was making some dude rich. I had decided that working under someone else for the rest of my life was not going to work for me. I no longer had the motivation to hold a job for more than 3 days! I would like to say I became an entrepreneur but if I am being honest, I got lazy. I burned myself out taking school too seriously and took a long break!
I took time to discover myself. I had never gone through a rebellious phase but I guess this was it. I realized that I had only been doing what was expected of me rather than what I wanted. I got tattoos and piercings despite what mom had wanted, I decided to look to the real world for my opportunities. Before that I had gone through Amway, I tried to understand Forex, I thought of short term education to get my Interior design degree, I tried babysitting to make up my own schedule and even went through CNA training. I couldn’t follow through with any of it. It still did not feel like I had found my niche. I still knew what I wanted my future and what I wanted my life to look like.
The money and time that I spent for some sort of epiphany was an absolute waste, I had to stop seeking out the answers. It came down to myself and the person I wanted to be.
When you find yourself in a slump, a hole or you are just not motivated to move towards that dream, take some time to get to know yourself. Spending time with loved ones, living, traveling, trying new food and to open your eyes to the things go on in the present. Fixating on the future is exhausting.. Going through those experiences and then trying to turn back to the 9-5 system is what made me want to pull out of it.
Its almost like you have become a stranger to yourself. You almost don’t recognize yourself after following the norm for so long. It is here that I advise the Work’nGirl to find her self, discover what YOU need and go for it. It is not about anyone else. Do for you. Take responsibility for those decisions and keep grinding. Save yourself the time, the money and the confusion. Don’t do what everyone expects, but what you crave.
See ya later Work’nGirl